Expect Respect is a program used at Albritton Middle School to empower students to positively impact the social environment in their school. We help students accomplish this by teaching them specific skills and including them in discussions about how these issues can best be addressed.
There are three strategies we want students to learn, and there is one strategy for staff members to learn, as part of Bullying and Harassment Prevention in Positive Behavior Support: Expect Respect. They are:
Stop Strategy: In a situation where disrespectful behavior occurs, it is important for student recipients to utilize the following steps in an effort to stop the problem behavior before it escalates.
If someone treats you in a way that feels disrespectful:
• Step 1: Use the school-wide stop phrase and signal.
• Step 2: If the person stops, say something like “Cool” or “OK” and move on with your day.
• Step 3: If the person does not stop, decide whether to ignore the person or seek support.
• Step 4: If you decide to ignore, don’t look at or talk to that person. If you decide to seek support, select a school adult to approach and ask for support.
Stopping Strategy: In a situation where a student asks another student to stop behaving disrespectfully, it is important for the accused student to utilize the following steps in an effort to de-escalate the situation.
If someone uses the school-wide stop phrase toward you:
• Step 1: Stop what you are doing, even if you don’t think you are doing anything wrong.
• Step 2: Remind yourself “No big deal if I stop now.”
• Step 3: Say “OK” to the person who asked you to stop and move on with your day.
Recruiting Support Strategy: In a situation where the recipient of disrespectful behavior has attempted to stop the behavior, yet the problem behavior continues, it is important for the student recipient to take the following steps to recruit support for de-escalating the conflict.
If you use the School wide stop phrase and the person doesn’t stop:
• Step 1: Decide whether to ignore it or seek support.
• Step 2: If you seek support, select a school adult to report to.
• Step 3: Approach the adult and say, “I’m having a problem with ______. I asked her to stop and she continued.”
• Step 4: If the adult doesn’t have time to help solve the problem right then, ask the adult when she will have time and make an appointment.
Providing Support Strategy (for adults):
In a situation where a student comes to you with a conflict that they cannot resolve on their own, it is important to take the following steps in order to help the student resolve the situation.
If a student approaches you with a problem involving disrespectful behavior:
• Step 1: Say “Thanks for telling me.”
• Step 2: Listen empathetically. Ask if this is the first time; determine who, what, when, and where.
• Step 3: Ask the student if the person who didn’t stop is likely to retaliate if confronted.
• Step 4: Help the student select a course of action. Possibilities include:
Here’s how parents can help:
If your student reports a situation that sounds like bullying or harassment, please do two things:
1) Try using the steps in the Providing Support Strategy (above),
2) Please contact a school adult to report the situation as soon as possible. Since a high percentage of incidents are covert, the school adults may not be aware of a bullying situation. By contacting us, you will be helping us to take actions that will help to create a supportive and inclusive school climate. Your involvement in helping us create a safe school environment for all students means so much to our staff, teachers, and community.
Please click on the link below to complete the Expect Respect Student Bullying Reporting Form.